My favorite word is “overwhelmed” and I use it all the time.
I think it does two things:
It really sums up parenthood
It teaches kids about emotions and empathy
I see parents trying to hide their emotions all the time. I see mom’s apologizing for crying when there is nothing wrong for using tears as an outlet. And I am overjoyed that moms do cry in front of each other all the time so that they create solidarity and a support system.
Parenting is hard and even though we try to keep up our appearances that it is easy, it doesn’t work and we need to allow our emotions to show so that we can be there to support each other.
If you are overwhelmed, you are allowed to show it.
When my day feels so long and my children are driving me crazy and one more thing happens the throws me over the edge, I say, “I’m really overwhelmed.” And then I either try to take some deep breaths or I walk away and take some space (usually in my room for just a minute or two).
Kids then learn all about emotions and empathy when moms show their emotions.
If you can name what you are feeling and even give some ideas on how to deal with it, then so much the better for everyone. But don’t hide the feeling. Don’t apologize for it. Just feel it.
You are allowed to cry. You are allowed to yell. You are allowed to feel all of the emotions and in fact, everyone benefits from moms showing emotions so let it all out!