As soon as people find out that I’m a parent coach, the air around us changes. There’s this expectation that my children are perfect children. Why is this career the only one where this is assumed? Do mechanics drive cars that break down? Do doctors get colds and other illnesses? Do the people at smartphone fix-it stores drop and break their phones (probably not, but that’s another story)?
One thing about having children is they push our buttons. Not necessarily other people’s buttons (but that can happen too) but they really come down hard on us as parents. As a teacher, I often work with kids that have a lot of difficulties with their parents. That doesn’t mean that I know more than the parents, it just means that I’m separate from the issue so I have a different perspective.
That’s what it all comes down to: Perspective.
I recently read an article that is circling the interwebs about parents being their child’s expert. This is so true. Parents know their kids better than anyone and they know what is best for their little ones. But if I may add on to that wonderful article: sometimes parents are stuck inside the cycle and sometimes they can’t see what’s just above them, or just around the corner and they need just a shift. Just another set of eyes or ideas.
They just need a different perspective.
I have used a parent coach myself because I have been in the same place that all parents have been in. Things were tough, I couldn’t see an end to it. I needed help.
The coach was able to point me in the right direction and get me out of the hole that I was in and it was so helpful.
It takes a village to raise a child.
We see so many signs pointing to parent intuition, “you can do this mama!” and that you are the expert in your child. All of that is SO true, but it doesn’t mean that we need to be islands in the ocean of parenting. Ask your neighbor for help. Call your mother-in-law and see if she can give a different perspective. Call a parent coach. And if you disagree with every single one of them then you can laugh at their advice. But maybe, just maybe, they will have a different idea on how to solve the problem that will re-frame the whole situation.
My children aren’t perfect, nobody’s children are perfect. We are all in this together!