If you have children, you have chaos in your life. They turn our whole lives upside down even if (especially if) we prefer order in our lives.
But here’s the thing: Children want and need order in their lives too.
They need the same thing over and over and over in their lives.
They need the same bedtime (ish) every night.
They need the same story read a zillion times.
They need the same food in front of them about 15-20 times before they feel comfortable with it.
They need the same people in their lives as much as possible.
They need the same song over and over a trillion times.
They need to know where the toys belong (box for cars, shelf for books, basket for food, etc)
They need the same consequence that they are done eating every time they throw their food.
They need to have the same holiday traditions every year until they are doing it for their kids as well.
They need toys that have all their pieces, aren’t broken and are organized.
They need the same calm reaction to their tantrums that lets them know they are safe.
When children have order in their lives, they feel more secure. When children feel more secure in their lives, they have fewer behavior issues.